An important part of supporting yourself and your child who is struggling with addiction is questioning all your old beliefs and creating intentional new ones that serve you. This video is one of the resources that helped me form my new beliefs about addiction because the connection aspect and findings of the research resonated with …
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If you are struggling with a child’s addiction or any loved one’s addiction check out this episode of The Struggle Is Real Podcast by Wellness On The Farm where I share my story about my journey to my own recovery and dealing with my daughter’s addiction. Share the love and pass this podcast on to anyone you …
Questions are simple yet life changing. I love seeing the lights come on and a coaching client changing in front of my eyes as I ask them questions. The heavy burden of overwhelm lifts, their body relaxes, the brain fog dissipates, clarity kicks in, and they start to see they have more choices than they …
It’s not the things we do once that matter. It’s the things we do over and over that matter. I’m so grateful that I put my own oxygen mask on first over and over day after day because in times of crisis, I default to those habits. I don’t have to rely on figuring out …
The other day I was watching a video for my Reiki certification and one of the slides said if you want to keep pushing Reiki on someone who doesn’t want it then you need to look at yourself and why you want them to do it so bad. Of course that got me thinking about …
Your beliefs create the results you have in your life. You might read that and think I’ve lost my mind because your child is struggling with addiction, you live in chaos day in and day out, and nothing has helped so far. Now I’m telling you that changing your beliefs can change that? Yes, that’s …
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You can have a connected loving relationship with your child without enabling them. If you want to connect with them, you need to look inside yourself first. A large part of what’s blocking your relationship is that their addiction activates every unresolved emotional wound you have. We all have similar wounds, that’s why most parents …
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Let go of how you thought your child’s life would be Let go of how you think your day will go today Move forward with surrender, acceptance, and a new approach The video below is an example of me letting go. Nothing went as planned. I was on a time constraint, the sound and lighting …
How often do you send a text to your addicted child and breathe a sigh of relief because the text went through, or look on social media to see if they’ve been active, or do a drive by just so you can have a little peace of mind? There are so many fears parents have …
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When I started working with parents whose kids are struggling with addiction I knew that shame would be a hurdle for them to overcome to get help. I dealt with it myself. Shame keeps us from all the things we want and need in order to begin healing. It’s a separator but what we need …
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When our children are addicted to drugs and alcohol, it’s painful. We often make it worse though by beating ourselves up over it and making their addiction or actions about us instead of letting it just be what it is. When I stopped adding to the pain of my daughter’s addiction and just sat with …
May is Mental Health Awareness Month We’re only as sick as our secrets & mental health is a topic that has been shrouded in secrecy and shame for too long. That’s why it’s so misunderstood. We need to talk about it more. Share this video and use it to start the conversation. One of the …
Mental health has to be worked at like physical heath. Read More »
How comfortable are you with the unknown? How much time do you spend trying to “figure it all out”? Our need to know what’s going to happen at all times can cause us tremendous suffering. We spend so much time trying to figure out what’s going to happen in the future that we lose track …
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If we want to feel the highest of high emotions, we have to be willing to feel the lowest of low emotions. It’s just how we work as humans. Whose experiencing anxiety today and frustrated about it? I’m guessing more of you than usual. I’m right there with you lately. Earlier this week I was …
If we want to feel the highest of high emotions, we have to be willing to feel the lowest of low emotions. It’s just how we work as humans. Whose experiencing anxiety today and frustrated about it? I’m guessing more of you than usual. I’m right there with you lately. Earlier this week I was …
When we experience emotional pain about our kids and their addiction an urgent panic often comes with that pain. That only intensifies our experience and makes us want to run from it even more. The other day I was sitting outside talking with my family and a wave of emotional pain came over me. I …
Enabler- it’s one of those words that evokes a lot of emotion. It’s confusing. We don’t always know what enabling is, so we feel panicked and wrong about everything we do to help our kids. No parent wants to be labeled an enabler; we’re struggling with enough guilt already. Sometimes doing anything kind for your …
In February some girlfriends and I took a weekend trip to Dallas. We stayed at a fun hotel in an area where we could walk to nearby restaurants. Our first night there we were excited that a drive only 3 hours south made such a difference in the temperature. As we walked into the courtyard, …
What’s your biggest complaint about your child that’s abusing substances? Read More »
When your child started abusing substances your life as you knew it changed. What worked before no longer works. Continuing to do the same thing expecting different results is insanity. If you want to feel better, you have to make changes. It doesn’t matter that your child’s addiction is the source of your pain. It …
Addiction Can Be A Teacher – Some Lessons I’ve Learned Read More »