Apathy, Inaction, & The Human Experience Of Parenting A Child Who Is Abusing Substances

Apathy is a lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern. It’s the feeling of not feeling and what I refer to as feeling numb. Numbness was my preferred feeling for a few years.  It was my coping mechanism when my daughter’s drug and alcohol abuse started because I felt defeated by it and powerless to help …

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How do you feel about the way your addicted child treats you?

I often hear overwhelmed parents venting about what their addicted child is doing to them.  How their child is treating them.  This unhealthy relationship with no balance happens over time.  Addiction rears its ugly head in their home.  Parents don’t know what to do.  They try to research for help, but all they find is …

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Are you a thermostat, or a thermometer? Your child’s substance abuse can easily turn you into a thermometer

What are you feeling right now? When I ask that question clients usually tell me what is happening in their lives rather than giving me a one word feeling. Creating awareness about what you are feeling is a good way to know where you stand now, so you can make changes in your life to …

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Worry

Ever wonder why your mind always goes to the worst that can happen and not the best? Think about it. Imagine how different you would feel every day if your thoughts were running away with all the ways things could turn out amazing instead of catastrophic. I used to think I had a right to …

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Wonder Woman

My robot vacuum (her name is Wonder Woman) reminds me of how I approached my daughter’s substance abuse when it first started. Several days in a row while I was sitting at my desk working, I noticed Wonder Woman was struggling to get into my office.  The transition into my office is higher than the …

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Relationship Manuals

Relationship manuals are detailed mental books of rules and expectations about what is normal and acceptable behavior for our teens.  The different between a manual and everyday parental rules and expectations is the emotional attachment to the outcome.  When you are emotionally attached to the outcome it is a manual.  The attachment to the outcome …

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