The more we try to help our kids the more we lose ourselves sometimes. Tips for reclaiming control of your life.
The sibling of your child struggling with substances has their own struggle with what their family is going through, but I haven’t shared much about supporting them, so I thought I’d do that today. Everything I share in this post is a slightly modified version of what I would tell you to do for your …
I was in Destin with two of my best friends for the last week. It’s always incredible to be in their presence and being with them on a beautiful white sand beach with crystal clear turquoise water is a bonus. I drove home from Destin yesterday feeling restored by our time together. After about 2 days with …
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Setting and maintaining boundaries is a crucial aspect of healthy relationships and personal well-being. It’s important to understand that the effectiveness of boundaries is not solely determined by the immediate behavioral changes in others. Two common pitfalls in measuring the success of boundaries are expecting others to change and having unrealistic expectations for the boundaries …
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This transcript has not been formatted or edited other than to add names. 00:00 Heather Hi, everybody. Today’s guest is Pam Lanhart. And she was on the podcast last year in September. This was not Pam. We just realized that before the episode. And Pam is from Thrive Family Recovery Services or Resources. And we …
This transcript has not been formatted or edited other than to add names. 00:00 Heather Okay, we’re back to continue our conversation with Barb Klein from episode 88. And I want to start this episode off by reading a paragraph from her book, 111 invitations step into the full richness of life. Because I think …
This transcript has not been formatted or edited other than to add names. Heather 00:00 As I prepare to release this episode on International Overdose Awareness Day, I feel many emotions. August 31st is an important day because it brings critical awareness to the global crisis of overdose deaths. It’s a day marked not just …
This transcript has not been formatted or edited other than to add names. Heather Hi, everybody. Our guest today, Mary Tilson, is a certified professional recovery coach, trauma informed yoga and meditation teacher and the founder of Sun and Moon Sober Living. Having experienced profound shifts as a result of her decision to get sober …
Last week I was in Sarasota near Siesta Key beach and took a walk through a neighborhood I had never been in before. I was talking to my mother on the phone as I walked, so I wasn’t really paying attention to where I was going. Next thing I knew was standing in front of …
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As parents of children struggling with substances, we’re used to identifying feelings of fear, anger, sadness, and guilt, but we don’t always identify the grief we feel. Probably because grief is usually associated with death, but there are many types of loss that cause grief. Ambiguous loss is when the person you’re grieving is physically …
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One of the reasons anxiety is so debilitating is that it’s too vague to be solved so we feel powerless over it.
Understanding the difference between worry, stress, and anxiety, where they happen in your body, and what functions they serve will help you work through them as they come up.
Worry, stress, and anxiety are trying to signal to you that you have an unmet need so you can meet the needs that they’re signaling.
Are you dreading Thanksgiving & Christmas? When you’re already struggling because of your child’s substance use, the holidays can be overwhelming and painful. You can’t control what your child does, but you can be intentional with how you respond to what happens, plan ahead to meet your emotional needs, and set the tone for your …
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I contributed #5 to a Rent.com article. These are all great ideas about what to do with 15 minutes of free time. None of us knew what else was being contributed to the article so I love that the theme turned out to be slow down, meditate, and journal. 15 minutes doesn’t seem like a …
If you’re struggling with anxiety, fear, and panic about your child’s addiction this playlist is for you. So many struggling parents have reached out to me about this lately so I am putting some of my favorite podcasts and videos in one place for you. Listen as many times as you need to and take …
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This week I got to interview my daughter. You’ve been hearing my experience of her addiction so I think that it’s important to hear what her experience was like as well. Some of the things we talked about: · What was it like when I looked to you to be ok to make me …
Do you ever feel like your mood changes like the weather? Last week I was full of gratitude and peace. This week I’ve been riding an emotional roller coaster. My daughter is safe in rehab and doing well, so these emotions are all about me and my personal battle. I’ve had to wean off my …
Our identities aren’t fixed. They can be changed. We talk about how to deconstruct and reconstruct our identities.
What do you want right now that you aren’t giving yourself? Today Kim and I talked about the reasons we don’t give ourselves what we want. Some of the topics we discussed: How successful dieting requires a mindset shift How your look at failure determines your willingness to try things you might fail at Limiting …
Do you know if you have a fixed or growth mindset? If you’re like I was, you probably never thought about it before. Mindset about abilities determines our accomplishments and fulfillment. In this video we talk about: The difference between fixed and growth mindset How mindset is just a belief that can be changed Thoughts …
We project lack of self trust as lack of trust in others. If you trust yourself then you never have to worry about trusting anyone else. As long as you’re worried about trusting others you will always have trust issues. How my daughter’s addiction and my breast cancer helped me build trust in myself.
Andrea Seydel and I talked about how to struggle well today. The concept of struggling well normalizes that when you love someone with an addiction there is going to be struggle. Learning to struggle well is part of taking your power back.