Finding Peace

The more we try to help our kids the more we lose ourselves sometimes. Tips for reclaiming control of your life.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR CHILD THAT’S STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION

You can have a connected loving relationship with your child even though they’re struggling with substances. If you want to connect with them, you need to look inside yourself first.  A large part of what’s blocking your relationship is that their addiction activates every unresolved emotional wound you have. We all have similar wounds, that’s …

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The key to finding peace of mind and happiness when your child is struggling with addiction

Let go of how you thought your child’s life would be Let go of how you think your day will go today Move forward with surrender, acceptance, and a new approach The video below is an example of me letting go. Nothing went as planned. I was on a time constraint, the sound and lighting …

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How To Overcome Shame & Fear Of Judgement About Your Child’s Addiction

When I started working with parents whose kids are struggling with addiction I knew that shame would be a hurdle for them to overcome to get help. I dealt with it myself. Shame keeps us from all the things we want and need in order to begin healing. It’s a separator but what we need …

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Our need to know what’s going to happen so that we can be OK, is the reason we aren’t OK!

How comfortable are you with the unknown? How much time do you spend trying to “figure it all out”? Our need to know what’s going to happen at all times can cause us tremendous suffering. We spend so much time trying to figure out what’s going to happen in the future that we lose track …

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What’s your biggest complaint about your child that’s using substances?

In February some girlfriends and I took a weekend trip to Dallas. We stayed at a fun hotel in an area where we could walk to nearby restaurants.  Our first night there we were excited that a drive only 3 hours south made such a difference in the temperature.  As we walked into the courtyard, …

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Addiction Can Be A Teacher – Some Lessons I’ve Learned

When your child started abusing substances your life as you knew it changed.  What worked before no longer works.  Continuing to do the same thing expecting different results is insanity.  If you want to feel better, you have to make changes.  It doesn’t matter that your child’s addiction is the source of your pain.  It …

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Why You Have To Give Up Your Identity As The Mother Of A Substance user – Waking Yourself Up From The Fog Of Your Child’s Substance use

There is so much more power in letting go of this identity than keeping it.  Think about labeling someone with the stigma of “addict” rather than referring to them as a person who suffers from addiction.  The difference between the two is one defines a person and the other one refers to an aspect of …

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Why it’s hard to change how you feel when your child is using substances

Familiarity feels good to us.  Even when it’s the familiarity of worry, anger, fear, guilt, or confusion.  We don’t like how those emotions feel, but we know them, so there is a sense of comfort with them.  I was talking to someone the other day who feels a lot of discomfort when she tries to …

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