Finding Peace

I use this on myself daily.  It really works!  If you try this and have any questions about it feel free to message me.  Let me know how it works for you. Grab a pen and paper and give it a try.  NAME IT – What emotion are you feeling? DESCRIBE IT – What does …

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I’ve mentioned before that planting flowers and working in the yard is one of the hobbies I’ve developed that helps keep me sane and focused on myself rather than my teen.  This year I have been fascinated by how seemingly dead plants come back to life in the spring. I’ve been watching them all closely …

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I often write that when you find yourself caught up in your teen’s substance abuse you have to figure out how to put your own oxygen mask on first and take care of yourself.  Future focus is one way to do that.  Future focus is intentionally creating a better future, instead of unintentionally recreating your …

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That’s a painful thought, but a common one. I’ve had it many times myself. One of the things that has helped my relationship with my daughter was letting go of all of my expectations for how my daughter’s life should turn out. When you think your life would be so much easier if your teen …

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One of the reasons your teen abuse substances is to avoid pain. The reason they want to avoid pain is because that is how their brain is wired. Ironically, the substance they use to avoid pain just creates more pain. It creates more pain for them, and everyone who loves them. Then, those of us …

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When your teen is abusing substances, your self confidence could probably use a boost.  All the fears, guilt, and self-doubt that show up erode your self-confidence.  Also, when you want to help your teen and you don’t know where to start or what to do you don’t have confidence in your ability to handle the …

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Is regret useful? That depends. Are you using regret as a tool for change or are you using it as a weapon against yourself? I’ve used it both ways, and nothing positive comes out of using regret against myself. When you use regret against yourself, you are stuck in the past wishing it was different, …

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Beliefs are just thoughts we think over and over.  Guess what that means?  They can be changed.  All you have to do is question your beliefs, decide if they are serving you, and if they aren’t serving you then change them.  Find new thoughts to think that serve you and think them over and over …

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Are you exhausted from worry?  Who thinks about the substance your teen abuses more? You, or your teen?  What if you give up your obsession with their substance of choice? What else could you do with all that time you spend devoted to thinking about it?  How much suffering do all those thoughts about their …

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Your teen’s substance abuse can be emotionally heavy.  It feels physically heavy sometimes.   Laughter provides much needed relief from all the tension.  Just because you enjoy some laughter with your teen doesn’t mean you approve of all their actions. My daughter and I had an argument at a drive through one night, and she took …

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You know how when you are on an air plane they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first?  You have to do that when your teen is abusing substances as well.    The natural response is to put all your energy and resources toward helping your teen with their substance abuse.  Their substance …

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You can choose to feel however you want. When you are facing your teen’s substance abuse It doesn’t feel like it, but you have a choice about how you feel.  For years I chose to feel angry because I thought substance abuse stole my daughter from me.  I felt robbed of our relationship and every …

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Deciding ahead of time will save you from yourself.  Doors are slamming, voices are raised, tensions are high, and angry words are being exchanged.  You are in the heat of the moment with your teen.  Does this sound like a good time to make a decision?  Deciding how you are going to handle this situation …

The Advantage Of Making Decisions Ahead of Time When Your Child Is Abusing Drugs or Alcohol Read More »

There is no perfect decision.  Decide ahead of time, that no matter what decision you make it is the right decision.  Your teen’s substance abuse requires you to make many decisions.  Where do you get help? Which doctor, lawyer, counselor, psychiatrist, psychologist, in patient treatment center, out patient treatment center, nutritionist, medication assisted treatment, detox, …

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Acceptance is not approval.  It is simply receiving the situation as it is, rather than resisting it and fighting against it.  When you accept it, you are no longer telling yourself this should not be happening.  You accept that this is reality and figure out how to meet your teen where they are at. The …

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