Relationship Repair

Tips for repairing your relationship with your child when they are abusing substances.

Measuring the Success of Boundaries: Avoiding Common Mistakes

Setting and maintaining boundaries is a crucial aspect of healthy relationships and personal well-being. It’s important to understand that the effectiveness of boundaries is not solely determined by the immediate behavioral changes in others. Two common pitfalls in measuring the success of boundaries are expecting others to change and having unrealistic expectations for the boundaries […]

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EP90 Understanding The Back and Forth of Ambivalence in Recovery with Guest Pam Lanhart – Living With Your Child’s Addiction Podcast

This transcript has not been formatted or edited other than to add names.  00:00 Heather Hi, everybody. Today’s guest is Pam Lanhart. And she was on the podcast last year in September. This was not Pam. We just realized that before the episode. And Pam is from Thrive Family Recovery Services or Resources. And we

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Living With Your Child’s Addiction Podcast EP89 Transcript How To Find Peace And Possibility Beyond The Pain With Author Barb Klein Part 2 of 2

This transcript has not been formatted or edited other than to add names. 00:00 Heather Okay, we’re back to continue our conversation with Barb Klein from episode 88. And I want to start this episode off by reading a paragraph from her book, 111 invitations step into the full richness of life. Because I think

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Podcast EP87 Transcript – Addiction, Recovery, and The Human Condition with Guest Mary Tilson

This transcript has not been formatted or edited other than to add names. Heather Hi, everybody. Our guest today, Mary Tilson, is a certified professional recovery coach, trauma informed yoga and meditation teacher and the founder of Sun and Moon Sober Living. Having experienced profound shifts as a result of her decision to get sober

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3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy

Are you dreading Thanksgiving & Christmas? When you’re already struggling because of your child’s substance use, the holidays can be overwhelming and painful. You can’t control what your child does, but you can be intentional with how you respond to what happens, plan ahead to meet your emotional needs, and set the tone for your

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Release Anxiety, Panic, and Fear About Your Child’s Addiction Playlist

If you’re struggling with anxiety, fear, and panic about your child’s addiction this playlist is for you. So many struggling parents have reached out to me about this lately so I am putting some of my favorite podcasts and videos in one place for you. Listen as many times as you need to and take

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3 Steps to Avoid Holiday Disaster & Create Peace

Are you dreading the holidays? When you’re already struggling because of your child’s addiction, the holidays can quickly compound that stress. You can’t control what your child does, but you can be intentional with how you respond to what happens this year and set the tone for your family. Step 1 Decide ahead of time 

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Why you feel frustrated when your child that’s struggling with addiction won’t listen to you

The other day I was watching a video for my Reiki certification and one of the slides said if you want to keep pushing Reiki on someone who doesn’t want it then you need to look at yourself and why you want them to do it so bad. Of course that got me thinking about

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HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR CHILD THAT’S STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION

You can have a connected loving relationship with your child even though they’re struggling with substances. If you want to connect with them, you need to look inside yourself first.  A large part of what’s blocking your relationship is that their addiction activates every unresolved emotional wound you have. We all have similar wounds, that’s

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How To Overcome Shame & Fear Of Judgement About Your Child’s Addiction

When I started working with parents whose kids are struggling with addiction I knew that shame would be a hurdle for them to overcome to get help. I dealt with it myself. Shame keeps us from all the things we want and need in order to begin healing. It’s a separator but what we need

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What’s your biggest complaint about your child that’s using substances?

In February some girlfriends and I took a weekend trip to Dallas. We stayed at a fun hotel in an area where we could walk to nearby restaurants.  Our first night there we were excited that a drive only 3 hours south made such a difference in the temperature.  As we walked into the courtyard,

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Why you want to control your teen or young adult child when they are using substances and why it doesn’t work

I often wonder where the perception of control comes from or why we think we should be able to control other people. When my daughter started abusing substances and I couldn’t control her behavior or get her to change it, I felt like I was failing as a mother. Why couldn’t I figure out how

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How do you feel about the way your addicted child treats you?

I often hear overwhelmed parents venting about what their addicted child is doing to them.  How their child is treating them.  This unhealthy relationship with no balance happens over time.  Addiction rears its ugly head in their home.  Parents don’t know what to do.  They try to research for help, but all they find is

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Why you have to be like Wonder Woman and change your approach to parenting when your child is using substances

My robot vacuum (her name is Wonder Woman) reminds me of how I approached my daughter’s substance use when it first started. Several days in a row while I was sitting at my desk working, I noticed Wonder Woman was struggling to get into my office.  The transition into my office is higher than the

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Relationship manuals and how they ruin your relationship with your son or daughter when they are using substances

Relationship manuals are detailed mental books of rules and expectations about what is normal and acceptable behavior for our children.  The difference between a manual and everyday parental rules and expectations is the emotional attachment to the outcome.  When you are emotionally attached to the outcome it is a manual.  The attachment to the outcome

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