When our children are addicted to drugs and alcohol, it’s painful.
We often make it worse though by beating ourselves up over it and making their addiction or actions about us instead of letting it just be what it is.
When I stopped adding to the pain of my daughter’s addiction and just sat with the discomfort of my pain and grief, I was able to start sorting through that pain and processing it instead of being overwhelmed by it. That’s what I call clean pain.
In this video I talk about how I used clean pain to have a wonderful visit with my daughter after not seeing her for three months.